Comparison Kills.

It’s so much easier said than done, but someone has to say it, so here I go. Stop comparing yourself to others. Comparison kills. The only person you should be comparing yourself to is the person who you were yesterday, last month, or last year. Don’t compare yourself to anyone other than a past version of you. Their journey, their appearance, their education, their house, their job, their family, their friends, their relationship, their finances, their social media, their experiences, their life. It’s exactly that. It’s THEIRS.

God blesses each and every one of us with the gifts and tools we need to succeed in our lives. They have what they do because He gave it to them. You have what you do because He gave it to you. So stop scrolling through social media wishing you looked like the Instagram models – cause trust me, she isn’t as flawless as the filters, poses, and edits make her appear. Stop sitting in class wishing you were as smart as the boy who never seems to get a question wrong – cause trust me, he definitely does not know it all. Stop persecuting the people who got the job you wanted, the car you wanted, the boyfriend you wanted, the house you wanted, the clothes you wanted, the life you wanted – cause trust me, if it was meant to be yours God would have placed your name on it. Stop being so consumed in what everyone else is doing and achieving, and start focusing on what you are doing in your life.

When you sit there and try to think about all the things you are not, you miss out on all the amazing things you are. When you compare your life to their life, you will always fall short. Not because you are not worthy of the blessings that they have, but because their blessings are not YOURS. If you constantly are trying to be like them, you miss out on being the unique, talented, beautiful, and powerful individual that God calls you to be.

I am confident in who I am. I love who I am. Yet, I still compare myself to others. It’s not something easily avoidable. But let me tell you, when I became more in touch with who I am and less worried about matching someone else’s standards, I became a whole lot happier and a lot less stressed. Comparison kills. It can consume your life. But it doesn’t have to. If you can ignore societal expectations, ignore the standards, ignore what others are doing, and you can truly focus on yourself, you will be able to live your life free of the weight that comparison brings. You will live your life for yourself, only working to be the best version of you and only comparing to a past version of yourself. Don’t fall into the trap of comparison, nothing good ever comes from it.

Xoxo,

Kaci