November "No More's"

There are so many things we are constantly trying to accomplish. So many tasks on the to do list, things we are trying to add to our lives, and things we want to get done. I think those things are extremely important, but this month I want you to focus on removing the negative things or things that are weighing you down. Here’s a little list of things I want you to say “No More” to during this month of November.

• No More Begging People to Stay in Your Life.

  • This one is really hard for me, especially lately. I am always the person to check in on everyone and put in the effort in most of my relationships. Unfortunately, there are so many people who I am in relationships with that I pour 100% into, when they truly give less than 50%. I feel like a lot of times if I’m not the first one to reach out, I wouldn’t hear from certain people ever again. Would it really be such a bad thing to lose the people in your life who don’t bother to check in on you or put effort into staying in touch with you? To me, losing those people is hard, especially if you love them, but I’m learning it really isn’t a loss. Remove the people who are draining your energy, and focus on quality relationships over quantity.

• No More Negative Self Talk.

  • It’s so easy to be the first to talk bad about yourself. We truly are our own worst critics. You look in the mirror, you reflect on your life, you break yourself down. “I’m not skinny enough, I’m not smart enough, I’m not pretty enough, I’m not talented enough, I’m not rich enough, I’m not successful enough.” You need to remove negative self-talk, it is only tearing you down and destroying your self esteem. Replace the negative self-talk with positive affirmations.

• No More Comparison.

  • We live in a society of comparison. Social media has allowed for constant comparison, which often leaves us feeling bad about ourselves and unqualified, unequal, and unworthy. The best advice I have to combat comparison is to remember that God has created you in His perfect image. He handcrafted you to be you, not to be her. You are perfect exactly how you are and are exactly where you are meant to be in your process. No more comparing yours to hers.

• No More Saying Yes to Everything.

  • So many of us are “yes” people. We say yes to everything even when we want to say no. We give and give and give, and allow others to take and take and take. You need to learn how to say no when you want to say no, not just being a people pleaser. It’s hard to do this, but it is so freeing to say no to the things you do not want in your life.

• No More Perfectionism.

  • I’m a perfectionist. I want to be perfect. Perfection isn’t real. It’s a concept we strive for, but a task that is unattainable for humans to reach. We aren’t capable of being perfect, so we need to stop trying. Aim to be your best self, and allow your flaws to be just that – your flaws, things which do not define you or dictate your value. No more being perfect, just be real.

Xoxo,

Kaci